10 Qualities of Authentic People
10 Qualities of Authentic People
How can any type of true success come from being a follower? The stand-out successes we all admire are not in the crowd, they aren’t chasing cash, or being cool. It doesn’t mean they don’t love nice things or indulge in them; it means they approach success from a different mindset.
Authenticity can not be reached if you are only looking outside of yourself obsessing over ways to live in all the narcissistic traps. To be authentic, individual and unique you have to know who and what you are, which comes through self-reflection. How can you know who you are if you are following everyone else? Self-reflection puts you in a state of personal harmony, causing you to experience less anxiety. Because you’re confident enough to focus on your own, you aren’t worried about another person’s position. You have nothing to hide which allows you a freedom to be yourself followers do not experience.
2. Healthy ego.
Authenticity comes from your heart. In life always lead from your heart. There is nothing deep about being superficially better than others or having more success or money because all of that “status” is subjective and temporary. Rather than the ego of an insecure competitor when you’re authentic you have the healthy ego fundamental for great leadership. To be the great leader of anyone or anything, you have to dig deep, lead with courage and practice empathy. You have to be secure enough in yourself that you are able to lead while considering of the ideas and feelings of others.
3. Focus on possibilities.
When someone is disingenuous or ego-based, they are always focused on themselves, the short-term, what they want, and how they can manipulate to get what they want right now. They tend to be reactive and to run their mouths to get results. They want things now in an effort to get them before other people. They are agenda-oriented. It’s all about them.
When you live authentically you have no time to waste emotion on sometimes necessary and temporary setbacks. When you continue pressing forward, the focus for you is always long term and on what possibilities patience and hard work will garner. You are relationship-oriented. The authentic leader knows certain battles must be lost to win the war.
4. Good character.
You can not be authentic without first possessing a strong sense of character. This means you do not say things you do not mean, promises are not made you can not keep and you stay in a place of integrity in all of your dealings, in and out of work. The reason people trust you is because you keep your word, you are not emotionally labile and people sense they can trust you to be who you say you’re going to be with a sense of consistency. When you’re authentic you do not take yourself too seriously and are able to laugh at yourself. Lightheartedness is indicative of your state of inner wholeness. Those who follow the pack are always anxious because at any moment someone could steal their temporary glory, causing them to sacrifice their integrity to “win.”.
Knowing who and what you are naturally makes you visionary. You are open and more innovative because you are deeply connected to yourself. You have been visionary in the creating of yourself and this allows you to bring that skill into all aspects of your life, especially business. You think with vision, which always adds value to the people you interact with. You are able to help others realize their higher professional goals. You push yourself and those around you to consistently raise the bar for excellence. Self-development is pinnacle in your life and you insist others delve into themselves in the same way in order to rise above the pack.
When you’re authentic you experience fewer emotional threats to your ego which makes you a good listener, even when someone else contradicts your views. You are more than willing to consider contradictory ideas with an open mind and change your opinion, if the argument make sense. When you are dedicated to the whole truth in any given moment, you live life in touch with your deepest and most profound inner parts; allowing you to be the full expression of who you are.
Open communication is woven into the fabric of your authenticity. You are secure in who you are and combine honesty with empathy, which more often than not brings you success. Because you’re transparent, you never leave anyone guessing or hurting. You are able to appreciate yourself, flaws and all; making you secure and self-confident; not cocky and conceited. Followers are always defensive. They are sensitive to criticism, easily threatened and offended, and determined to win others over to their point of view. This is the marker of their insecure self-concept. When you are truly self-confident you exude a sense of inner worth, assurance and composure. You are unashamed of your mistakes and don’t hide your weaknesses. You have the courage to be who you really are.
8. Open and consistent.
When you know who you are you do not hold judgmental attitudes towards others. As you evaluate the thoughts and opinions others hold, even those you do not agree with, you still place them under an umbrella of respect. You do not live striving to push others below you. You are consistent in who you are, and have no need to satisfy someone else’s criteria to feel good about yourself. This solid foundation is what makes you consistent, and it is also what makes you so generous in your assessments of the worth of others. You aren’t fickle. You stick to your principles and are not easily swayed by superficialities.
9. Team oriented.
You build successful teams and give credit where it is due, sharing your success and achievements with your entire team. You possess a healthy flexibility; the kind that is free from resentment and abuse, making you unselfish. You love your team because you are inwardly secure, and so sure of who you are that any change you need to make for the benefit of the team is a no brainer.
10. Draw upon experience.
As you strive to live from a genuine place you increase the likelihood of being able to live in the present. You can draw upon experience to work wisely through each new challenge you face on your road to success, making you more confident that you will be able to handle whatever hardships your future holds.
When you’re authentic you have the healthy ego fundamental for great leadership, rather than the ego of an insecure competitor. The authentic leader knows certain battles must be lost to win the war. When you’re authentic you do not take yourself too seriously and are able to laugh at yourself. When you’re authentic you experience fewer emotional threats to your ego which makes you a good listener, even when someone else contradicts your views. You can draw upon experience to work wisely through each new challenge you face on your road to success, making you more confident that you will be able to handle whatever hardships your future holds.